I counted my calories when I was a bodybuilder.
I was “Paleo” for 6 years straight after doing an educational speech about the diet in college.
I eliminated animal products after watching What The Heath and Game Changers.
I ate only meat (Carnivore diet) for 45 days to see why Joe Rogan loved it so much.
There’s one thing I’ve learned from trying different diets and committing to them for long periods:
What you put into your mouth can help you accomplish your goals.
I counted my calories as a bodybuilder to gain muscle or lose fat.
I ate whole…
You can’t find your purpose because you’re conceptualizing it incorrectly.
I have 4 AA (Associates of Arts) degrees. Not on purpose — no pun.
I assumed I wanted to train athletes because I enjoyed training.
I assumed I would enjoy business management because my grandpa owns a multimillion-dollar business.
I assumed I would enjoy producing music because I love Hip-Hop and R&B.
Wrong. So incredibly wrong.
I’m getting my Master’s in psychology to become a Marriage and Family Therapist, and I write in my free time because I want to help people.
I chased purpose and meaning…
“Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.” — Mahatma Gandhi
Motivation expert Edward Locke noted during years of experiments and analysis that goals give life meaning and increase motivation, and improve self-efficacy, which increases self-esteem.
Mark Murphy confirmed and expanded upon Locke’s research in his 2010 book, Hard Goals: The Secret to Getting From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. Murphy revealed the human brain is biologically wired for goal setting.
Lastly, Abraham Maslow established self-actualization — achieving one’s full potential — as the most essential necessity in his…
“There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart’s desire. The other is to gain it.” — George Bernard Shaw
We would be dead if we didn’t attach to people.
“The propensity to make strong bonds to particular individuals is a basic component of human nature,” said John Bowlby, the British psychologist who discovered the survival necessity of attachment.
Bowlby explained that a child needed to attach to their parent figures (especially mother) to survive — get food, water, and shelter.
Bowlby isn’t the only psychologist to recognize the importance of attachment. Abraham Maslow created The Hierarchy…
“If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” — Oprah Winfrey
My friend broke up with his girlfriend for the more attractive option — the girl with the bigger boobs, rounder butt, and prettier face.
The sexier girl wasn’t as bubbly and light and soft as his ex. He pleaded for her to take him back; she said no.
Married women cheat more than married women (1). They divorce their safe, “boring” husband for the man who rides motorcycles, owns a business, and has a million Instagram followers.
Her new life in the larger…
“To know a species, look at its fears. To know yourself, look at your fears. Fear in itself is not important, but fear stands there and points you in the direction of things that are important. Don’t be afraid of your fears, they’re not there to scare you; they’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” — C. JoyBell C.
Self-knowledge is the most useful wisdom you can possess.
It will help you discover your purpose, that feeling of fulfillment that inspires you to work for hours without break or days and months without vacation.
His actions torment her.
She’s angry because she’s hurt. She wants answers. She wants to know why he’s been dismissive. She wants to know why he’s been distancing himself.
She wants to know why he broke up with her from what appears “out of nowhere.”
She’s alone physically but not spiritually. She converses with cycles of grief and fury and contemplation that act as a second entity.
“Why did he say that? What does it mean? What does it mean about me? Did I deserve it? Did I do something wrong? Will I ever be loved again? Am I loveable?”
Your pain is not your fault. A remark from a parent or sibling or peer is all that is needed to trigger a pain response similar to a limp after a broken leg.
Our responses and coping strategies are our biological mechanisms to heal a wound. But our typical responses to relieve pain leave us stuck, hopeless, and shaded by dark clouds.
Limping, using crutches, taking medication (legally or illegally), drinking alcohol, lying on the couch watching Netflix, playing video games, scrolling through your Instagram feed, and chasing love only temporarily relieve the pain.
Regardless of how scared you are…
You’re lying to yourself.
“You’re a loser” is only fact if you believe it to be.
You have evidence somewhere in your history to prove your greatness. We all do.
When we investigate our interpretations and meanings, we rediscover our power. The power to shapeshift our identity, our beliefs. The power to falsify “truths.”
We expand our consciousness when we break free from the finite. A cageless bird can see the clouds from all angles.
From here, he understands himself, others, and the world with clarity.
He understands the world and the people it in project their hurt to weaken…